Hi Penguin,

Sometimes when kids launch for college, the parents, as if on a timer, start to fall apart.

Now ~ Are you living on campus, or at home? If you’re still living at home, I strongly encourage you to move out!

Then, when you’re visiting home, have clear boundaries (even mentally) about what’s your stuff, his stuff, her stuff, their stuff.

Dad had his midlife crisis and is with some younger chick. That ship has sailed. If you want to see your father, call him and have lunch just the two of you at a diner.

Your brother has always had Aspergers. Believe me, your mom has always given him money and supported him and will always do so. Now she’s just giving cash to him directly. The only conversation you should have with her is if you will support him after she’s gone if he is truly unemployable.

Your mom will continue to meet internet rascals. The worst thing that will happen is she will be swindled. It’s hard to watch, but, it’s her life, her money. If you must, perhaps call her favorite sister or best friend and implore them to keep an eye on her.