Hello Rose Tattoo,

First of all know that (and I think you already know this deep down) you will be doing great and will be happy again in time to come. Time heals these pains, be sure of it. I know this because I am also going through a break-up right now, (since last Saturday) with the woman who I was dating for almost four years.

There are so many great writers on this website alone who share mounds of wisdom on how to move on and continue loving yourself so give them a good read!

I am not aware of the details of your relationship or your age, but I can tell you that there are so many options out there for you, and as soon as you start to believe that again, that is when they will show up right in front of you!

On the note that you broke up because you felt that you needed to change yourself, (again, I do not know the details), if this means that you would have to give up core values that define you and are what you strongly believe in, then rest assured that you made the right decision :).

I myself had many issues with my previous relationship (and an amazing one it was), one of them for me was, as I am a Sikh, I do not eat meat and I would not marry someone in the future who continued to eat meat so that is a value for me that comes before any relationship. (ps. my mom used to eat meat, and stopped doing so in respect for her marriage with my father, and they are the happiest couple i know to date). Thus I know your pain, especially when my girlfriend was fine with the idea of not eating meat for most of the time, but just turned on it at last minute as other problems arose.

So, Rose Tattoo, take it easy, have some fun with friends and family, indulge in some activity that is new that you’ve always wanted to do. Occupy yourself and be happy!

Lastly, if this still consumes you and you feel that this is not the end of the relationship, then do not be afraid to give it another try. I personally do not believe that much in life, let alone a relationship, is not salvageable. The key here is growth, if you two can grow and come to reasonable terms with the previous issues truly and faithfully, then that is growth!

So give it some time, and be patient. The world is yours for the taking, be true to yourself and you shall always at be peace and happy!

• This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by SIngh.