It’s important to know why we get attached to others, how we are able to fall in love, out of love, ect, or if we are even experiencing love or just genuine need. Relationships work at filling a void that we each, for our own specific reasons, have. And while there are some common traits that unify people, there are so many things that can be polar opposites that some relationships are destined for failure. The idea is that the more mature a person, the less that person needs, as wisdom brings understanding. The people that break up with us, cheat on us, push us away, hurt us, they have a driving need to always be fulfilled by something, while others of us are happy just to ‘be’. Unfortunately, the two desires of , ‘need’ and ‘be’, can never co-exist. One person is always in the control of that relationship. Those of us on the receiving end go through the hard part, because we were happy for most part. It’s hard to believe the other person really was.

Being honest about your own maturity level is a step in the right direction. It has nothing to do with age, or even experience. The two people who have the least to gain by being together, will be together the longest. Work toward needing people less, through work, family, education, lifestyle choices, hobbies and exercise. Allow other things to make you happy, and when you face people wanting a piece of your heart, question why.

my 2 cents