Dear Little Coconut,

I feel what you’re going through. As a young 20-something, i can really identify with the changing intensity of passions and wavering choices because there are indeed so many choices but no easy, pleasant ways. The last two years have especially been difficult as i constantly seem to see people finding wonderful jobs, going to swanky foreign universities or seemingly having the time of their lives. But here’s the catch – Passion for career is really a bit like marriage – you gotta stick to it despite some days where you just wanna leave it. Right now, i am juggling a number of options i want to consider after i am done with my postgrad degree in econ – the civil service exams next year, the placement thing, the teaching job exam, then the economic services exam. I also want to become a writer someday. Now girl, the civil service exams in itself is a huge huge commitment, toughest in terms of competition…but i guess what i am trying to say is very few people know what they exactly want so early, its a matter of sticking to that one thing, having the trial and error process but here’s the catch: time doesnt come back.

So my suggestion is to make a list of the things which you like the best among all the things you like – how you could really do it and what it possibly demands. Think about your personality traits, working styles and your future life goals in the next 10, 20 years. Keep 2-3 backup options in place as well. But really, decide a bit because honestly, time is precious. You will surely find your way but here’s the thing about solely relying on passion alone – its highly over-rated. Consistency is the key in most things in life. Ask yourself whether you are willing to really put yourself out there for the thing you supposedly love for even a few years – the long hours, the boring parts of it and be clear about why you have chosen it – whats your underlying driving force.

Well this is the best i can come up with in my current situation. I hope the others offer some useful ideas.

Regards,
Moon