Stop blaming yourself… Actually, no one is to blame. Some relationships don’t work. This relationship wasn’t right for you. The man who is right for you will not only accept your anxieties, but he will also help you to heal them. THEN, you will know you are with someone you should spend your life with. It sounds as though he added to your anxiety. I was in that relationship for 6 years myself, and struggled to finally let go for my own mental health. As soon as I released that relationship (with the help of daily meditation and a LOT of forgiveness), I met my partner now. He’s accepting and soothing. The same will happen for you. Never settle out of fear.