Hey buildingconfidence,

I totally understand how you feel and I struggle with the same issues. I also feel jealous and not lovable from time to time. I’ve started a process called Inner Bonding (google Dr. Margaret Paul for details) which encourages you to listen to your inner child. I’ve also started writing daily gratitude lists – listing 10 qualities that I have that I am grateful for. I already feel so much happier because rather than ruminating on how much I don’t love myself, I am now becoming more focused on how and why I am worthy of love. But it takes practice and a lot of courage. Only you can do the work and transform yourself.

As for your SO, its wonderful that he is supporting you but undoubtedly he has his own issues to work through (whether he acknowledges them or not). Thats his responsibility, not yours. Notice when you are obsessing over your relationship with him (us women are very good at that!) and instead turn that energy towards learning more about yourself and healing.

Lots of love to you xxxx