Hi andyt,

You are welcome and I’m glad that what I wrote can be some kind of help. I don’t know why I have been willing to share on this forum, because before my marriage ended, I keep anything to myself and tried to deal with everything on my own. I think your friend had a good way at looking at things. Even if I make goals that have a year long timeline, I will still only be able to accomplish them if I work towards them day to day.

Although, I have the responsibility of having two sons to look out for every week, I know I need to do some more things that I want to do. It will be a benefit to them if I am happier because I am living my life. Lately, I have been struggling to stay positive. It is something I want to improve on because I wasn’t a guy that had a problem with that, at one time.

Also, I’m sorry to hear about your relationship ending. I’m kind of guessing that is where you feel ‘waves of sadness’ come over you. If I am not correct about this than let me know. If it is, I can relate to you then. The first year that my marriage ended, I felt like that regularly. I don’t feel sadness too often. Nothing like that ever lasts for long. Now, I just feel too much stress. That is where setting goals to get to a better place overall, will help.

Take care