Hi Alyssa! I think you are so brave and strong for getting out of that toxic relationship and making that move back to your home, as hard as it is for you. I agree with Inky that I think you should stay single for a while – lean on friends (try to make new friends when you are feeling better), learn to love yourself again and believe in the inner-strength that you have (and have shown). You will get through this and make a new start for yourself – it is an opportunity to embrace and re-create and rediscover yourself now that you are apart from the toxicity. I hope you can find work to help keep you afloat financially until you know what it is you want to do for your next step.
Also – please be kind to yourself in that you may be experiencing some depression and post-trauma from your relationship ending – you have a lot to come to terms with now that you are separated from the situation in which you spent your life in for the past 5 years. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help if you find the moments of pain and overwhelming too much. When my marriage ended at 25, I became ‘severely’ depressed due to the changes I found my life in, starting again etc. So be kind to yourself and remember it’s okay – you’re doing the best you can at the moment. I wish you all the best x
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