Hi!

Last year I was also in a LDR with an extremely passive-aggressive man who would turn off his phone and ignore me every single time we fought. It felt like being involuntarily placed into solitary confinement, as he would say I was “too emotional” to talk to right now.
But the focus here is really her, and her silence – she is doing it for herself.

My advice would be to end it before it gets serious. This is an extremely difficult behavior to change, and if you pull on the thread that inspired this behavior I’m confident you’ll find so many other pitfalls and issues. Of course, if you have the heart and spirit to pursue this, then I really admire you, but it can turn into a lot of questioning your own sanity and even blaming yourself for having hurt her… Even though she’s making the pain worse.

The silent treatment is unacceptable, manipulative, and after my relationship, has become a non-negotiable dealbreaker for me.