Alexis,

I am so sorry for the situation that you are in – but the answer does not lie in staying with him or helping him through his problems. In fact, he needs to be willing to make the changes in himself first. When you first meet someone after being single for so long and it feels like things are magical and wonderful, it’s really hard to pull yourself back into reality and confront all the very real problems that exist within your relationship. It is so easy to believe that all of the major problems and differences between you are the result of “opposites attract” and it is so romantic to think of things as being meant to be. Alexis, I know it hurts now, but you must, absolutely MUST break off all contact with him until he heals on his own, for your own good, his own good, and for your child.

Boy’s flaws need to be worked out by himself before you can embark upon any relationship with him. Trying to fix his problems FOR him will NOT WORK. Love is not words, love is action and love is selfless. And blowing you off, cowardly trying to pin the breakup on you and his unresolved addiction, those are not the actions of love.

Staying in this situation, embedding yourself in his problems is only going to lead to more heartbreak and greater hurt for you in the long run. Love yourself and be thankful that you got out of this situation while you still could.