One thing I do know: He didn’t have to tell you he was married.
So why did he?

Two reasons come to mind.
1. He wants to be honest with you so you know what you are getting yourself into because he likes you.
2.He likes you and wants to put everything out there so there will be honesty up front.
They sound similar but one has to do with the fact he wants YOU to know what you are getting into.
The other is HE LIKES YOU and wants the relationship (whatever it is or can be) to be based in truth.

One is based on YOU and one is based on HIM.

What I don’t see is that he is playing you in any way because if he was, he wouldn’t have to tell you he was married.
Choosing to be in a relationship with a married person is very painful.

I don’t think it matters so much how he feels about her or any of that. What matters is his intent towards her.
If he is not planning on divorcing her then what could he offer you?

Just keep a level head so you don’t get sucked down a path you don’t want to go.

I would ask him what his intentions are with his marriage are.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 10 months ago by Maggie Black.