It is very sad to lose people you care about. But there is one person you should not lose, and that is yourself!
Even if he had an eye-opener, he will need hundreds of them before actual change can happen! This takes years! For everyone, even if they really really understand and want it! Are you underestimating the costs of this relationship right now because you are afraid to go out there alone, to lose something and to face yours fears and loneliness…?
Maybe you need some more time to be sure and to fully understand where this is going… but keep in mind that if he continues to put you down in any way, you will also lose more of the strength and may find yourself in a really bad cycle…
Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be abused! Keep your strength, your self-love and self-respect – this is your job in life – not being loved by others or trying to hold things together or fixing someone else! No name calling, no disrespect, no threats! NO relationship should feel like this!
(sorry, this makes me really emotional, maybe I’m on the wrong track, but this is how I feel about the things you wrote…)
Take care!