I agree with everything said above. Sometimes you just need what people say to jibe with what is in your heart. There is no way this man is the one who is going to care for you and love you. No way. He hasn’t had time to learn how to treat a woman right. By the time he does, you will have moved on. As far as letting go, the biggest way to start helping yourself, is to take a step away from the thought of him, have compassion on yourself, and say to yourself, O I am thinking about this again. Look, there go those thoughts again. After you accept it for a while you can let the thought go, until it comes around again. Thoughts and feelings are not really us. They are just our attachments to this world. Our true self is full of compassion, and tries to look at these thoughts with compassion and even humor – Ah, yes, from the perspective history of the whole human race – look at this thought tangle I have.
Well, and of course there are many other ways to move forward, and create your beautiful life, but that is one to try. Take care of yourself.