Yes. Ho hum. Uncalled-for sexism aside, your story is a sad one, Lee. You consider your problem to be all about some stuff that happened two years ago?

OK, so she broke up suddenly and it turned out there was someone else on the scene. Someone she married right away. That’s pretty weird. It’s also totally not about you. That’s what she decided to do with her life. I understand it hurts, but there’s nothing I or a therapist or anyone can do to explain it. It also doesn’t really need explaining. It’s what happened. It’s on her.

What you need to be noodling your brain about is what makes you hang on to this woman and this story. Or, put differently, what will it take for you to let go? What do you think is the reason this haunts you so? You haven’t said anything about that, so I sure can’t tell you.