Howard, I am a female (47 with lots of dating experience and relationships), It appears to me your ex girlfriend has some self esteem problems and you cannot fix her. I am now going through depression (even though I have a decent marriage..most of the time and 2 kids). She may be suffering from depression or maybe some type of mood disorder and those can wreck havoc on your self esteem. I would not take her words personally as it probably has nothing to do with you. “Do not take it personally” needs to be tattooed to my inner arm..then I can look at it every day.
I haven’t been what you have been through though. The only men I have pushed out of my life are those that I didn’t feel the same (when they loved me and I didn’t love them back) or my boyfriend that became too physical for my upbringing.
As the others have said…Have No Contact with her.
I can tell you that the guys that pursued me over and over…all I could feel is suffocation and it made me distance myself that much faster and farther.
As the old saying goes “If you love them then set them free.” If she is meant to come back then she will…on her terms…But You Must Not Wait For Her.
Best of luck and hugs to you!
Deb
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