Inner peace,

Narcissistic people are people that aren’t rational to other peoples emotions and only care about themselves. There is an entire list of abusive/narcissistic behaviors. I have 3 friends with degrees in Psychology and know a lot about people’s un-healthy emotional behaviors. It’s is very COMPLEX.

As to say my ex would have narcissistic personality disorder because she didn’t care about my feelings & how many years I held on to our love, which was 3 years the day she disappeared. Which during those 3 years I had to grieve the loss/disappearance of her, until I one day had to take a better look at myself and accept the FEAR of rejection and that she no longer loved me as much as I deeply loved her, which led me to be brave and face her or I’d have regrets. No communication from her, nothing for 3 years and I was all of the sudden I was the mortal enemy. Of course I was optimistic for a positive outcome BUT That doesn’t make any of us narcissistic, it means people change. While I was out of my ex-girlfriends life for 3 years, she had obviously moved on easily and I hadn’t. That was pretty apparent by what I wrote earlier. I don’t believe in all scenarios that people just flip a switch, What I do believe is that, after many years go by, peoples feelings change and then they grow apart. As to in my personal situation my ex moved on and I was still holding on after 3 years she had been absent. That isn’t to say she didn’t care but either way, I will never know because she is one who doesn’t like to communicate and express her deep feelings. Until that person sits down with you and tells you face to face how they are feeling, why they act/acted the way they do or did. We can’t just easily slap a label and say that this person is just thinking about themselves.

We don’t live in a persons mind to know what’s really going on until they tell us. In my case, I had many years to grieve before I was rejected, even after all that I still was in grievance for another 8 months. So 3 years and 8 months of grieving my ex and then healing, clearly isn’t flipping the switch easily. I had many years to mourn the loss of someone I truly loved and cared about, that doesn’t make me or anyone else a narcissist. It’s called accepting that the person loved has moved on and that they didn’t love you as much as you loved them. It happens, people change, I accept that and so I believe in lifes wonderful blessings. The universe is good to you and will bless you, if your intentions with people has always been pure. I could have told my ex-girlfriends family all the details about our relationship but I kept my mouth shut and respected her enough, that she is the one that needed to tell her family about our relations and not me. I don’t go behinds peoples backs and disclose personal information. Does that make me a narcissist that I put her personal needs before my own???

** Remember, it takes 2 in any failed relationship ** We must accept this. This song holds 100% truth. Like anything, friendship or a romantic relationship, it takes two, two sides to every story. https://youtu.be/9FnfnxziPDQ