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First of all – I can tell you right now – you DO have what it takes to connect to other people. So do not worry – you will find your prince charming. There is nothing wrong with you. I had the same issue – thinking that people who are with me, they will leave me anyway. Later, I figured why I have such a fear – turned out, my parents gave me to my grandma to raise me till I was 1 years old. But in my mind it was ” my parents abandoned me”. I read a lot about it, how our patterns form and how we react in life, and I found the solution. The way you see yourself is through the eyes of others in your life. You probably had very depending, controlling parents. There were probably many “don’t do that!” Bottom line, you developed the impression that you are not enough. You don’t love yourself, and you should start there. First, remember the earliest memory of when you were a child and got hurt. Then go to that child and give her a hug, tell her you won’t abandon her. And be there for yourself. You did nothing wrong. That is one things for sure to understand – being you and who you are – nothing wrong with that. Accept yourself. Be your own best friend. And don’t run from fear, the more you fight it, more you fear. Look the fear in the face and let it be. I recommend using Sedona method for letting fears and other negative emotions to let go. You will be fine! You will find a person you love and they will love you back. Forgive yourself, you are already doing the best you can! Hug.