Sophie,

Oh man, I am really sorry that you are going through this. I kind of went through a similar experience and I have some advice on how I got over it. My girlfriend dumped me about 6 months ago….it was extremely painful especially because I had to see her every other day. Not only did I have to see her but I had to see her with her new love interest. Man, it was painful as hell and I had no choice…I had to see them.

At this same time I just started a new career. Starting that new career was extremely scary and extremely difficult for me, physically and mentally. it was so demanding. There were times where I was paralyzed with fear of going to this new job and didn’t know if I could even do it anymore. 6 months have passed and I still have this new job. It’s still challenging for me but I know that I can do it and I’m not afraid of it anymore. After going through fear and hardship like that…hardship where you really have to dig deep to prevail your mindset changes…after climbing Mount Everest you feel like you can climb any mountain because all other mountains don’t compare.

Once I finally got over the fear and pain from this new career choice, I realized I could conquer pretty much anything that life has thrown at me because I have climbed my Mount Everest. And after that, I was finally over my breakup.

So my advice to you is to find something that you’re afraid of and live there. Find something that challenges you and conquer it. And it doesn’t have to be “Mount Everest” because even the best climbers have to start somewhere. And the mental strength you get from this may help you for the rest of your life.