Hi, not sure why you think that having sex with her was bad? I don’t think there is a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way of starting a relationship. I personally have met people who didn’t know each other at all, had a one-night-stand and ended up having a good long-term relationship. I also know people whi did things in the ‘traditional’ way, and are no longer together. On the other hand, not sure if I understand properly, but did you mention things went ‘bad’? as in bad sex? that’s not a problem either! We have all had bad sex and good sex, and it can happen with the same person.. that just happens! and I don’t think that is grounds to immediately discard someone (ps. I’m a woman). I think it all depends on how much you like this girl in particular, but if (as she told you) the feeling is mutual, I would just relax and I can assure you soon there will come a right time for you and her to just hang out alone. In brief, I don’t think you screwed up AND I think there is still a good chance to get her if you really want 🙂