Hello,

First, I want to say that my heart goes out to you. Even though it’s already friday and you’ve probably already made a choice, I felt compelled to respond to your post, as I am a woman in her 20’s who has had an abortion. It is not my intent to try to sway you either way, but I just wanted to put it out there that you MUST do what you feel in your heart is right – and the decision has to be exclusively for you and you first and secondly for your child and nobody else. Unfortunately, being pregnant is not a circumstance that you can negotiate or compromise on with your partner or any other person. I want to share my story with you. My abortion was the beginning of the end for my very serious relationship. My ex (who was terribly emotionally abusive) tried talking and pressuring me out of it… He very inappropriately told all of his friends, family, and coworkers about my choice (turning them against me in the process)… And in the end, he held it over my head and called me a murder for what I had done. One might infer that because of what I did, I destroyed a relationship that I was sure would last forever. Even though I’m still grieving the break up, I can happily report that I wouldn’t change a thing. Because it was something that I had done with 200% of my heart, I still to this day, do not regret it. Nor have I ever had any second thoughts about it.

Whatever you do, if you truly feel certain about it, if you truly feel in your heart that it’s the right thing for you, then you will not feel bad and you will not regret it. And anything that anybody has to say about it will simply not matter.

Best of luck.