Hi guys,

Thanks so much for your input, it has helped a lot!

Pakros, I really like what you said ‘A lot of the happiness you found in that relationship was sourced from you. So you should be happy you felt that way, because going back to what i said initially, you were happy, you can be happy again, it happened, so you know it can happen again.’ That striked a cord for me, you are right, it doesn’t feel like that though, I just feel empty right now but I know in time it will ease. I’ve been trying to keep busy but the pain is always there, nothing I do seems to ease it but I’ll just have to take it day by day. But really thank you for your kind words.

Pallas thanks for sharing your story, I’m really sorry this has happened to you too but it did make me feel better that there’s someone else out there going through the same thing (well I’m sure thousands are!). I talk to my friends about it but it’s hard for them to understand and I don’t want to burden them too much either but they have been great. I’m making plans, keeping busy but it’s always there in the back of my mind and like you keep thinking what if… this person was also in my future and it’s so hard them not being there anymore, I miss him so much and at the moment I’m blinded by the person I thought he was and not the reality. Who wants to be with a person that cheats on them… But when it was good, it was great, I’m trying to redirect my thoughts when I remember the good stuff but damn it’s hard!Anyway it’s just something that we’ll have to deal with, life can be the pits sometimes but I do understand what you’re going through and you’re right, this site is a great help. We’ll just have to take this as a lesson and an experience we can learn from. If you ever need to chat or vent or anything, just pop me an e-mail and thanks again for sharing 🙂