Hi Toggles,

I think what one says when drunk still holds some truth. I can’t say that based on experience as I have never been that drunk before and regretted things I’ve said, but it seems a lot of people seem to agree that when someone is drunk their “true” or underlying, subconscious feelings come out. Not that it’s so horrible like the things he said, but maybe that’s his way of trying to get out of the relationship and maybe he’s really not ready for getting married and having kids and the only way he knows to end it is by lashing out and doing something extremly harsh. But also him having a problem with alcohol in general is a reason to be concerned, regardless of what he says, even if he doesn’t say anything. Abusing alcohol is never good, and it sounds like it’s just getting worse over time and it could lead to addiction and worse behaviors.

But I think if you already broke up with him, and are honestly considering moving back to Austraila, that I think speaks more to this situation. That is a huge decision. If you really feel like that’s better for you, and you already severed things with him, then I think you should continue on that path. Usually people wonder if they should even end things – but you already have and that’s already a big step. I think it’s definitely better to be around people that can support you. It doesn’t sound like it would be a good idea to try again with him, at least not right now.