Dear undercity:
Are you communicating here that you have no memories of being shamed, negatively criticized as a child by a parent/ parents/ others?

If you have such memories, is it that those memories do not appear in a verbal form before or when you feel shame?

As to your question about living well with shame- nope, I have no idea how to live WELL wish shame, only how to survive, which I have done for many years. Will share those if you need ideas of how to survive it but i need to be convinced that you have no choice but to live with it. Hope you answer my questions.

Take care:
anita