Dear jessp:
I thought it will never happen to me, having had an even more distrbed life, so it seems to me, than yours… and then i met a good man at 48. Then at 50, following serious relationship and personal ongoing troubles- my first serious psychotherapy. Now at 54 I finally found love- with my husband. Had no idea that could happen. Of course, it didn’t just happen- lots of work involved and mutual goals of healing our early attachment trauma of childhood, individually but working together.

You made a lot of effort and somewhat successful efforts in getting better but obviously- my understanding, something wasn’t done in your work- a full emotional understanding, acknowledgment of your trauma. You wrote “Who hasn’t?” something like that regarding having had a bad childhood. This is – I believe- minimizing, evidence of not adequately processing your significant pain of having been abandoned/ unloved as a child. This injury will keep screaming out for acknowledgment- i too had a few times of enlightenment in my life but went back to depression and such when a new challenge came about.

It takes stronger mental health to get through challenging circumstances than it does to live the easier times. Stronger mental health following deeper healing: DEEPER healing.

All best to you:
anita