Dear Nidzo:

Shame, the two of you being victims of the social practice of arranged marriages. You were not sure you wanted to be married with him when he asked you. And now, do you have an idea? Would you have said yes if you could go back in time?

If yes is the answer and his wife is not pregnant (!) – this is a no brainer to me, he should end that marriage. Regardless of your answer, he should end that marriage. If he has to move away where he doesn’t have to suffer the consequences, then he should move away. Move away with you or without you.

Did you discuss with him the possibility of him ending the arranged marriage? What is his position?

Do you like him enough to make a life with him yourself, if he gets out of the arranged marriage?

Once you see reality better, examine, investigate different possibility and see it clearly, your distress will lower as you will know what to do.

anita