Hi Annie,

I think it’s very recognisable for many of us, craving attention and closeness and physical touch.
I also struggle with that often.
For myself, what i have found, is that i divert all my attention away from myself towards others, and the more i’m craving those things, the more i’m out of touch with myself. And those times, what i actually need is to learn again to relax with myself, to be alone and be at peace with that, to be able to enjoy that. And then i can much easier have a genuine contact with others. Well, i’m learning this, i’m not good with this at all, i’m just learning that this is how it seems to work.
I too find it a lot harder when i’m busy, because that already means that we are running around to fulfill more external things, and there is less time to be with yourself.

Do you do any meditation?
For me, that is one of the main things that helps me the most.
If meditation is something that you do and helps you, or otherwise if you have something else that does you good (for me personally it is also very supporting to read, or to go for a walk, or to crochet…), perhaps it could help you to schedule time for that everyday, even though if it is short. It could help to stay with your own little things and perhaps divert you a bit from craving your ex and that other guy. Do things for yourself and the contact with that guy might go a lot easier, without feeling desperate for waiting for him around the corner.

Sorry if i put it a bit simplistic. I am just starting to learn in this area as well and wanted to share with you what i’m learning, don’t know if it is any good.

I’m sure there’ll be more people coming in with more sound advice 🙂