Hi Inky,

Thanks again for the reply, as you can see, I have been away and just isolated from the world. His mother ended up texting him, “did you go to a lawyer yet?” … I was furious with this but it’s not his fault she is a b*tch and asked this…BUT it is his fault how he responded. He said, “no” then she asked “why?” and he said “because I didn’t have time.” YOU CAN IMMAGINE WHAT HAPENED when I saw this text message conversation in his phone. WHY would he say that?? I KNEW his b*tch would ask him about this one say and bring up “lawyer” and I ASKED him about it and he said, “no, we didn’t talk about that ever.” Well that’s not what I saw when I went through his phone. Anyway… lots of time went by and he and I got back together…for a month. Just recently when we broke up again, I kicked him out, he took all his stuff with him, it was due to the fact that he did not want to give me his phone password. Why? Because you have something to hide? A big boy like you can’t control his mother? You are planning something against me?? I lost it and he was out, I wasn’t going to deal with it anymore.

haha I like your idea of saying “our” and building a “team” but I can’t even see myself eating with her across the table from me not to mention referring to my things, especially my kids, as “hers too.”

I do want us to move away but I just got a fabulous job and his work has kicked off good too. It would be a financial loss for us to move 🙁 she should go back home, she has been in this country for over 3 months now, life would be better if she goes back to where she came from, far, far away from us.

jj