Anita that’s not what I meant at all.

Sorry I used the term you when I meant one.

How many victims have you met before? I mean not the survivors but the victims? I’ve met loads. I’ve been one several times before I became a survivor. What I mean are those people for victimhood I’d used as a cloak to not have to take charge. It’s scary taking charge, that’s not in dispute but I’ve met a fair few fr whom it’s easier to hide within the hurt and use it to hide from trying.

You’re clearly not one of those people but I’ve net a fair few in my travels and it’s a pattern of behaviour. I’m nt judging. To be a victim is a hideous place to be and ot takes alot if work to help a person to take a chance in their own life .