Dear Anyone:

I didn’t understand much about your post above, what your mother told you.

Your need for love is not a weakness. Everyone needs love. You are born needing love. You got to look at it as weakness, maybe be disgusted with your need for love only because you didn’t get it. You needed it SO MUCH that not having it felt SO VERY BAD. So you thought it is needing love that feels bad. In reality it is the not experiencing love that feels bad.

It is not the needing love that feels so bad. It is not experiencing love that feels so bad.

So you don’t fix the needing, you fix the not experiencing love.

Maybe you grew up without love. Now you need it from a man. But you don’t want to need it so you convinced yourself that the little you can get from a married man is all that you need, not much, just a little; not love, just companionship.

You unknowingly lied to yourself. You are trying not to need love, this is why you chose a married man.

This is what, I believe, you have to face: the fact that you need love, that it is OKAY to need love.

And then you choose a man who can love you, at least choose a man that will maximize your chances to experience lasting love. A man who is not married, who is single and available and who is honest with you and with other significant people in his life, this kind of man is where you have better chances to experience the love you need.

anita