Dear Unavailable:

You are welcome! As you move in with her, remain AWARE and AWAKE: see to it that at the same time you are helping her, that she is helping herself. See to it that as you help her, that she helps you as well. If it becomes you helping her as on a one way street, it is going to be bad for both of you. Do not settle into the role of the “strong” one, the helper, and she as the weak one, the one-to-be-helped. Help and be helped, both ways. She will get better if she understands that you need healing as well and that she CAN HELP you. This will encourage her to believe she has the strength to help you… even before she understands she has the strength to help herself.

To help her, in other words, encourage her to understand and participate in helping you.

Best wishes to you:
anita