Hello TreenOfLane,
I just read this in an excerpt from Shonda Rhimes’ new book: “sometimes the people who loved you when you were angry, dark and “twisty” don’t like to hang around when you lighten up”

This is very true – when we change, we’re impacting the lives around us, even if we don’t mean to. But you’re right in pursuing what’s right for you, you’re right in reaching out to your daughter to reconnect, you’re right to wonder why she’s not giving you more information about “what you did”

At this point though, if you feel like you’ve done everything in your power to reach out, it might not be a bad idea to give her some breathing room to figure herself out? I think the more you try to make it right, the more she might recede, just because she’s not ready.

If you do want to give it one last concerted try before you throw the ball into her court, you could try writing a long old-fashioned letter explaining your end of the story, and what your heart’s desire is – to repair your relationship with your daughter, and then let her know that you’re open to her when she’s ready.

This way you know you’ve done your best, and can go back to texting until she’s ready. Do you think this might work?