Dear L:

I am sorry that your mother, among other things, told you that “I was found in a trash can and that she wanted to leave me in Vietnam and wish she did.”

My thoughts: People who hurt others, parents who hurt their own children, again and again, do it because they are in pain, and they have the humane responsibility to NOT do so. Being in pain, being part of a history that brought one pain, does not give the parent, the person, the license to hurt another. Your mother had no right to hurt you. She did to you then what was done to her: inflict pain on you.

Of course it is people in pain that inflict pain on others: this is how it has always been. It is not happy, go lucky people that make it their business as usual to hurt others.

anita