just wanted to say thank you all for advice! And thank god there is this site for us to go and and advice on healing and getting through these tough times! There is a lot of people on there that is hurting! and right now I am a mess myself but, when I can try to respond to someone that is hurting and in pain it makes me feel good! I have told friends and family, I rather be beating up with with baseball bats then go through that pain of a break up!