Dear Jane:

You can bring anything up without sounding needy or insecure. You can say something like: “I feel fear that you will leave me” and say it in a way that is self respectful, not needy. Everyone is afraid sometimes. Many people are often afraid. I am sure he is not a stranger to fear. So you can tell him “I am afraid…” and even have tears in your eyes and still have your self respect. I mean, strong, worthy people are afraid and sad… it is natural and human. So it will be okay to express weakness- there is much strength in doing that. I hope I am clear here, I am not sure.

By the way “jessica” is a spammer, trying to get people to google that address and give their money to some magician, a spell caster. She or he posted the same post you got here all over the forum tonight, so please ignore it.

anita