Dear Shelly:

Your posts here “scream” to me something like the following (The Shelly little girl that you were and still is inside you): “I was left behind. He or she or they (parent/ parents) didn’t pay attention to ME. They didn’t see ME. Their attention was elsewhere! What about ME? When is it MY turn? When do I get to be taken care of?

And that little girl Shelly has been throwing temper tantrums with this last boyfriend, upset and crying and saying something like: “Oh, you are SAYING you love me, so how come you are paying attention to your daughter and not to ME? What about ME? When is it MY turn?

And now that he ended it, the little girl is still throwing an anger tantrum: “Oh, you ended it with me too soon while you gave the other women in your life a second, or third chance? What about ME? When do I get MY second, or third..etc., chance?

This old hurt, old pain is bleeding, has been bleeding for a long, long time. I am so sorry, Shelly. I know this pain only too well. If not addressed, that is if it is not seen in the context of how it happened, long ago and slowly placed in that context in the past, it will keep bleeding into the present.

What do you think or feel about my input here…? Please post again. I am concerned for you.

anita