Hi Again,

Can you leave while he gets help for the drinking? It may seem like a tall order (for him!) but sometimes we need “little hurts” (or a big one!) to nudge us in the direction we should go.

Regarding the housework and the job… If you leave you would have to maintain a house/apartment and work anyway… I would get my ducks in a row (employment and my own bank account) so I can leave. I would also liquidate all my stuff that I don’t need (so you aren’t saddled with things, you can pack lightly and go). He WILL see what you’re doing and get nervous. As he should be.

It will get worse before it gets better. But once you’re through the porthole so to speak, it will be a huge relief!

My whole “Keep the house in order” advice is so he will more clearly see in stark relief that YOU are fine. That HE is the common denominator for all the problems.

Good Luck!