* I don’t know who or why a reply above was reported for inappropriate content, if it was a mistaken click someone has made. I liked reading that comment, well written and thoughtful.

Dear Amy:

This is my input on your posts: it is okay to not forgive the father of your child. It is okay to not forgive anyone at all. There is some pressure to forgive… in the bible, in some psychotherapy circles… it is often thrown there: forgive! forgive! forgive! And often people try to bury their feelings of hurt and anger and fear so… to forgive when those feelings of hurt, anger and fear have valid messages that need to be heard and recognized, and not to be repressed for the often inappropriate Forgive! message.

If you are consumed with anger, and intense anger (hate) toward the father of your child, and that hate is ruining your well being… it means to me that there is something for you to figure out, a message in that intense anger and once you see that message, the anger will weaken.

Would you like to explore possible messages of that anger?

anita