Thanks, Inky! It’s a good perspective and I didn’t consider what you’ve written.

My plan was to move to this city regardless of him (I even have job interviews set up, etc..). But I guess I was looking for his blessing by bringing it up to him – which I now realize wasn’t necessary and freaked him out. I won’t mention it again. Lesson learned. I just hope this didn’t ruin things completely.

Yes, I was in an open marriage when things started with the guy. Interestingly enough, I don’t want anyone else… I want to be monogamous with him.