Hi Vinni and Cath.

I am sorry to hear about the situations you are going through. If I may be of help. Losing someone you love and care for is to me the most painful gift you can go through. You will be happy again , but you just don’t know it yet. Like the famous saying… And this too shall pass. Vinnie understand that your ex does not see the relationship the way it was. You have to accept the reality of things and not the fantacy you wish it was. It is the first time it happens to you so I completely understand the urge you have inside you wanting to “fix” things and make it right , if you can only convince her right? … She knows these things , but her choice will stay the same. You need to let it go , and have strong will power to go no contact. When this happened to me the first time , I wrote a journal , to avoid saying the things I wanted to say to her and gain more self control over myself. Remember you are in control of your actions not her’s. And when you mature to a point , where you accept LOVE … Unconditional Love . You will be happy knowing someone who meant so much to you is happy even if it is not with you. Forgive her for hurting you and Know she is not the women who will make you happy. Look at everything you did for her. It does not mean she is a bad person , she is just not the person God wants you to take care of and be with. Faith in the unknown is the best medication. Healthy living , seeking wisdom , helping others in an unknown way (like on the forum). When you do good , it makes you feel good , and you will get better. It will not go away over night , but every adjustment is a step in a new and more clear direction. You will be fine and no contact will help you. Be calm and in control of your emotions.