Thank you guys for such thoughtful replies. Setting “rules of meeting” at the beginning is definitely a great idea. I’m hoping it’ll go well and we can start the process of at least being civil to each other. I just know that the last time we spoke in person he got emotional and nothing I said made any difference, no matter how calm. I finally had to just say, over and over, “I’m not going to be able to talk about this with you tonight” and eventually just get in my car and leave. I hated to do it but he was raising his voice and getting more and more upset. He apologized and is been 2 years so I’m hoping that’s not the kind of thing I’ll deal with this evening. I’m pretty good at staying calm and level headed, I just don’t like it. Plus I really don’t want to hurt him or make things any more difficult than they have to be in our situation. I’ll definitely keep you guys posted!
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