Dear John_1:

From your descriptions in your original thread, you treated this woman badly and sometimes you hurt her on purpose. You did that for a long time while she insisted that she loved you and wanted to spend her life with you. She finally moved on and is in another relationship.

I strongly believe that the right thing for you to do is to leave her physically alone, not writing to her and otherwise not trying to communicate with her in any way, shape or form.

As far as leaving her alone mentally, in your mind, you wrote you could do it if you knew for sure it was not real love on her part, in the past, is that correct?

Well, it was not real love in the sense that there was no mutual love, that’s for sure. You know that for sure, don’t you? That when you rejected her over time and hurt her again and again, you know it was not true love on your part… do you ?

anita