Hello Anita. Thank you for answering. Yes, i deliberately hurt her over and over during our relationship. But it wasn’t that i didn’t love her, but just the opposite. I had issues concerning love matters. I had bad residues from past relationships. I was projecting my insecurities on her because i knew she cared about me and would feel bad about it. I guess that made me feel secure.

After breaking up with her (it was me), i took the time to think things over. I also went onto counseling. I sorted things out in my mind and realized that i just lost a woman that could stand by me and vice versa.

At the time we were together, i didn’t have the mentality to show her how i really feel about her. I also broke up with her in a bad manner. She said to friends she didn’t expect that from me but should respect my decision. She is even leaving the country to go back to her parents (she was staying here because she wanted a family with me).

The reason i took so much time to contact her again was that first i should be 100% that i will never treat her bad again. But it took me a long time and she didn’t knew what i was trying, so she decided to move on.

I found out that she is having a surgery and i sent her a message a few hours ago to tell her everything goes well and she responded…

I respect this girl and will certainly not interfere with her plans. I also told her that in the letter i sent her. As a man, i feel that i should give a fight for this woman. Of course i will not push her in any way. I will continue to show my interest in her. What happens after, no one knows.

A common friend talked to her about me and she told him that if someone really loves he must insist but should start all over again, as friends…

What do ladies in here say about this?