Dear Anita,

Your last message hit the nail on the head and somehow gave a voice to what my subconscious had been struggling to express.

No, I am not willing to accept this negative criticism as an act of love, not anymore. 3 years is long enough for him to learn my style of accepting advice. I do believe it is time for him to adapt to me for as much as I have adapted to him.

I am quite emotionally involved with him, which explains why I am trying to see things from his perspective. But I guess, if he is equally emotionally involved with me and not his ego, image or habits, he would do the same for me.

You’re probably right about him remembering his childhood differently. I have also felt, on occasion, that something doesn’t add up.

After a reasonable amount of space, I will try to talk to him. If he refuses to respond, then I guess this relationship wasn’t meant to be.