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  • #413208
    pete
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    Yeah I dunno if anyone else has a 1000+ post thread on this place. Anyway my plan is i’ll wait until around October and message that chick “hi” and see if she’s blocked me or gives me another “I’m too busy to be your friend, but only you” message again.

     

    The other chick…I went to her job to eat and doesn’t really talk to me when I see her since, didn’t really think she was interested in me just being friendly. Basically she had a huge smile and said you showed up. I ate, then she talked to me for a couple minutes when she  asked if I was wanting anything else. Talked to me for a couple minutes again after I paid and told me to have a good new years with a big smile. Oh well, it will be like that other customer that wasted my time and I stopped talking to her unless she needs help with something (she was sooooooo mad for a couple months lol), we have not said a word to eachother in 4 or 5 months now.

     

    Hope you have a great year, maybe i’ll post again when I update you about texting the person this thread is about in Oct. 2023 is all about me now.

    #412773
    pete
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    Yeah staying home is nice.

     

    Friend? i dunno about that after the last female friend I used to have, I don’t really wanna have friends if they eventually treat you like crap. I’ve had enough of dealing with women with jealous guys trying to either fight me or destroy me. It’s happened several times now. Such disrespect from other guys I get, enough is enough.

     

    999 post…damn.

    #412728
    pete
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    Merry Xmas, hope you had a good one and have a great new years.

     

    I just stayed home and ate pizza, ezpz. What did you do?

     

    Saw that Korean customer, was trying to tell myself “no! I need to stop talking to people and only focus on myself”, but she walked in and started talking to me for 7 minutes about our xmases and more about eachother. She really wants me to come in and see her and eat there, I said I would but she laughed and said “you wont come in”,  so i’ll try surprise her Jan 1st with a visit. She works 7 days a week for like 10 hour shifts since she owns it.

    #410498
    pete
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    Yeah I prefer talking to any girl any time. I don’t really want a girl, I just like talking to them. I’m not lonely or anything, I don’t start feeling sad because I am single…I prefer it.

     

    I stopped the candy cane stuff a few years ago.

    #410464
    pete
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    Naw I don’t care about her anymore, she’s the past and will stay there for all I care and she’s obviously super glad to get me out of her life. As to what you said…things been bad way before that. I admit that was wrong to text that but things changed once she met that loser.  Guys don’t like their women to have male friends because they are weak. Just a casualty of that. Part of the reason why she ended the friendship was because I did not text her once for like 6 months, the other part was her feeling sad about her breakup like a year and a half ago and got emotional. But she also didn’t text me once, either…so that’s just downright pathetic.

     

    As for the ghosting stuff, definition of ghosting is to kick someone out of your life. I have not text her at all and she has not text me at all so it’s basically ghosting. It’s not my job to chase after someone that keeps disappearing. It’s literally black and white…if you never text or call your friend or ask to see them, they are not your friend. I don’t really even want friends…I am fine by myself. I just wanna do my own thing and talk to random women anywhere I am at. Right now I talk to LOTS of women at work, I got this cute korean chick I talk to and I make laugh a lot, ask her some personal questions too. Co workers say she’s my girlfriend (she isn’t). But I hit on every girl, I don’t care. People say “next week you will probably have new girls you’re talking to”. Probably true. I’m like the total opposite of this thread if you ever met me in person.

    #410264
    pete
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    Doesn’t matter to me. Yeah I call females chicks or girls all the time. I’m 38 and she’s 43.

     

    Sorry for your troubles you’re going through, life tends to kick us in the butt sometimes. Just gotta keep plugging along. Hope you get better.

     

    Yeah but that was years ago we had those memories/moments. She now hates my guts I guess or why would she tell me she’s too busy to be my friend, come back for a tiny bit and now ghost me? She’s not too busy for her other friends and makes new friends but just me she cuts out and tells me I did not do anything wrong. What do you think? me personally (and others from my work) say she’s a shitty friend and person and it was probably the guy. I don’t remember the last time she’s ever been honest with me, she just says a bunch of stuff.

    #410196
    pete
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    Oh hey. I’m fine I guess…still doing my thing like physio, buying another heavy bag stand and heavy bag from a buddy from work this week probably. Also hitting on girls all the time at work.Actually today at work a co worker was laughing at me because I was hitting on the health and safety person that came into my job, but I hit on everyone lol.

     

    As for this chick the thread is about…She’s ghosted me for the past like 3 months or so. I have no clue, only assume it’s because her ex boyfriend (they are best friends that cuddle on the couch now). She said I did not do anything wrong and don’t need to say I am sorry, she’s sad she doesn’t have the time for me that I deserve,but hangs around her girlfriends monthly dancing, etc. It’s only me she’s said this to as well, so what else can it be? if she lost interest she would have denied all those phone calls and stuff. So it has to be him (her previous boyfriend before him was this way too). I miss my old friend so much but I guess her ex has got in the way.

    #405413
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    I don’t think I need much more physio now, I can throw things in the air and not feel the pain anymore. Not much to write about for me…losing lots of weight, me and that friend made up after I appologized several times(it was all me but that thread is done) and we still calling eachother, um playing video games with a buddy from work, gonna be doing more excercise. My heavybag stand should be here next week (the 19th). Trying to turn my life around, certain events (you know what) made me realize it’s time I change my life around. Last couple days I feel super hyper, like everything is moving in fast motion. I definatly have no problems getting people to like me as I am trying to be genuine more and more and I talk like a race horse to everyone, my goal is to be out in the streets talking to girls like I should be. Life is short so make friends, talk to girls, get in shape, get happy and treat people with respect.

    #403551
    pete
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    Goodbnight anita, and thanks for everything. I got my other thread to get to sometime.

    #403550
    pete
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    Ok 1 final thing…i got friend dumped from someone I have known nearly 20 years via a text message. I requested her call me and talk about this but when I called her she blocked me after, then apparently unblocked me. I know she blocked me because the text did not say delivered, it was blank under, then my goodbye message an hour later I said goodbye forever and blocked her but she unblocked me for that message.

     

    I don’t even get a courtesy of a hard phone call to end things after everything. Even I did hard phone calls…nearly 20 years and all I get is a “I can’t commit to this friendship anymore” and blocked after I tried calling her. Was I that toxic to her or was she just that upset?

    #403545
    pete
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    Ehhhh I think we should let this thread die now lol, it’s officially over because of me. Brought it back because I wanted to tell you what happened. It’s UNBELIEVABLY painful to know that I lost her because I caused her so much hurt and pain. Hurts losing a friend because she was so hurt and could not face me over the phone, I gotta live with that pain for the rest of my life and she does not want to ever have any contact with me ever again by her message.

    #403508
    pete
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    Oops “it doesn’t feel good when you don’t feel good because of my slow replies etc”.

    #403507
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    I’ll try to have a good night, you as well.

     

    Hopefully we understand, but I still think she’s upset I stopped reaching out to her. She’s not willing to reach out with me for whatever reason but wanted me to text and call her still (which is confusing because people say she hasn’t been interested in me??). She was really interested in me so she would reach out when I vanished, then she got a guy and moved away with him and things changed. Wanted me to still keep in touch, but I slowly stopped when I noticed she was giving me less friendship energy and started complaining more and getting frusterated because she would text me back pretty quickly and we would text in the morning and it stopped. I then found out her guy and her split up and I messaged her if everything was ok with her? and we hit it off there again. Lots of texts, phone calls, saw eachother a few times including her surprising me wanting to see me the day before we were going to hang out. Then a few months later I decided that was enugh and she seemed fine so I said to her at the end of the phone call “Ok see you later i’ll message you in a few months”, she said in an upset voice “no! message and call me and i’ll message and call you!”, that was basically the beginning of the end…once I said that i’ll message her in a few months things kinda went woop!

     

    Still getting annoyed I gotta wait an entire day to get a text back from her while she’s on facebook messaging people and made her feel bad about it, said sorry and she slowly started delaying the phone calls. One time she “forgot”, other times “not feeling up to it today”, or she would call me suuuuper late. So she was annoyed with the text thing and annoyed with me  vanishing for months, but she could have easily text or called me anytime, even told her as much. Then the final straw was when I got annoyed and said I didn’t really wanna hang out anyway and I would see her in the summer time.

     

    But that’s what I think, could be wrong but don’t think I am. I am pretty smart at these things even if I am such a feminine guy (which is bad…a man has to be masculine). Maybe 1 day in the faaaaaarrrrrr future I will reach out and say hello, but she ended things so she must have been THAT hurt, especially since it was a text and not a phone call. She even said as much in her text “it doesn’t feel good when it doesn’t feel good because of my slow replies etc”.

    #403504
    pete
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    Today was….emotional at work. My god! She’s blocked but maybe 1 day many many years from now if I think about her I will message her that I hope she’s doing well or I will see her walking around. Or would that be creepy?

     

    Man this hurts…manager at my work that was tight with her told me maybe it’s not even about me, maybe she just needs to move on for a while and when she’s ready she will reach out in a few months, but I said yeah it’s most likely over now. People at my work are confused why it was a text and block and no phonecall…manager agrees with me it was because she probably could not handle a phone call due to being upset and found this way easier.

    #403485
    pete
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    I’ll try. Not that upset anymore…I am pretty sure I know why this happened and it has nothing to do with what she said, she’s upset I go months not keeping in touch with her and she’s tired of me coming in and out of her life when she just wants me in it. Like I said, she’s gotten upset I go months not “keeping in touch”, but I vanish because she doesn’t do anything, she can text or call too but she never does and expects me to do it all. I CAN’T DO IT ALL!!! she once said “I message you when you dissapear” and when I said I’ll talk to you next summer one time (it would have been like 11 months) she said “if that’s what you want..i’ll be around just message me”.

     

    Like I said, it has nothing to do with the filler fluff she posted, it’s because I don’t keep in touch anymore and that message of not wanting to hang out with her and see you in the summer was the last straw, I guess she had an emotional reaction to it and had a talk with someone on what to do and there was an agreement to let me go. She could not do it via phone because it was too painful for her so a text and block was the easiest thing to do and she can run away like she always does when a problem arises. She should have told me “I can’t be friends with you if you are always going to vanish”, instead she did nothing and this happened and I presume it was really hard for her because that 1 summer and how close we became when her and her guy split.

     

    I lost a friend for a really dumb reason, but oh well she done for good.

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