Dear Chatty Lady

In you situations seven people will potentially have their lives altered if you processed to be with “this guy”. Three are children who could spend a life time trying to understand what happened, why a parent left and the disruptive aftermath.

I suggest you forget about “this guy” for 12 months with zero contact. Focus on your husband, decide together if you have a future. Because of your child you life and your husbands are wound together no matter what you do, so if you decide to divorce you will have to agree how you rear your son. Once you have figured out your future with your husband, then and only then can you start to consider what role  “this guy” plays in your life .

Tony

This is difficult ….. as old flames burn bright in the dark of the lonely night .

I had a friendship with a woman over 30 years ago, it was not sexual but we were very attracted to each other, but circumstances were against us. This was before the age of social media so we lost contact for over 30 years . We did connect earlier this year but it fizzled out because in the end we realised we had our lives today and did not want to hurt loves ones by connecting with a nostalgic fantasy from a long time ago….. in the end old flames can’t hold a candle to the person who has lived a real life with you .

I wish you strength and awareness as you navigate this oxymoron of the heart

yes , life is all about attitude

Dear Nycartist,

I too really enjoyed this site, it was a forum to explore the deeper meaning of life and seek some guidance on life’s struggles. I am not political, over the years I have discovered that any political views I had were flawed, however democracy is better than the alternative. I admire individuals from any political persuasion who put them selves forward as democratically elected candidates, as to do so exposes them to ridicule, harassment and even worse. I felt this site was a politics free zone, however when I read your post  and the replies I saw a political consensus, in this case liberal , so I pressed the report icon. I felt guilty and re-read your post and saw it’s true intent and thus responded with my view on not demonising you’re neighbour and that politicians are a reflection of who collectively we are at a given time. Someone then reported my post and your posting thread was blocked for further comment , that is why I started a new thread.

I have been  harassed by a regular contributor on this site. I wrote about a deep emotional issue in my life, as with most emotions they defy logic. This contributor called me lier and assassinated my character. I asked that my personal postings be removed and now I am very cautious on this site, my advise don’t trust everyone who contributors on this site as some are charlatans pretending to care, when really they are feeding their own ego….. be careful on this site is my advice.

wishing you joy and good health

Tony

Reading both contributors  on this thread demonstrates why Trump rings true to a huge minority in the US ( and globally) . There is a deep seated fear among a large minority that the liberal agenda rubbishes beliefs and values that have sustained communities for decades if not centuries , values like self sufficiency , religious values ( ie the unborn life ) , expectations that your children will be able to settle and raise a family in your community. The liberal media and cohorts have made such a huge thing out of hating Trump that they have created a monster that really does not exist , the US ( Canada where I am from ) and the western world are democracies , politicians are a reflection of who we are at any given time . If you don’t like your politician then vote and if you are moved become politically active …… but don’t fall into the trap of demonising your opponent because by doing so you demonise your neighbour .