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February 15, 2023 at 1:57 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415412
Well as for the date, it went well….February 15, 2023 at 1:03 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415410
I apologize if i look like im spamming threads as i posted 5 posts above…. I just wanted to speak everything here….February 15, 2023 at 12:52 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415409
I also keep thinking now that i have posted on social media, i cant make mistakes because a lot of people are focusing on me now…. I’d be embarrassing if i did mistakes….
If they know what im doing in my office, only learning and sometimes even fell asleep due to sleepy, a lot of people who notice my relationship will definitely judge me…..
I look like im a lazy and spoilt guy right?February 15, 2023 at 12:23 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415408
Do u think as a guy i’m “pathetic”? That i keep living my life like this…. Full of issues and overthinking….. Havent been able to work properly, basically only learning everyday in the office…. And i feel less pressure because it is my own office, whereas other people are working on their own….. i sound like really lazy and spoilt right?February 15, 2023 at 12:19 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415407
I posted two posts above, but one of the posts are awaiting moderation…. So it might come out late…February 15, 2023 at 12:18 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415406
I still cant believe that i gave her a luxurious handbag because of my insecurity…. I think my mindset is messed up now, i dont want to be a person that keeps showing off….
Why do i always make mistakes, and cant do things correctly…. Even on an important occasion like valentines day….. I always disappoint myself, when im trying to do my best for myself….
Is everything have to be this complicated and stressful?
I keep thinking that now im in a relationship, i need to do better at my job… but if i keep overthinking like this, feeling worried and anxiety… how can i improve it? Cause working/jobs could affect the relationship, and if i cant do my job it will cause negative effects to the relationship…. Right now im only learning at the office, i still cant do anything yet….. i dont want this issue to disrupt the relationship…. It’s really really tiring…..February 13, 2023 at 6:01 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415376
I thought you were talking about surprising her with them in your car? Considering that you said that she has difficulty expressing emotions in public. That sounds like a good idea if you would like to see her express herself freely.
= yes, i’m planning to surprise her in the car, but the problem is there are 2 gifts which is a handbag and a bracelet and i plan to surprise those 2 gifts separately….
The handbag will be before the dinner and the bracelet will be after the dinner….. but in ur opinion do u think im giving her too much? I’m afraid she might have a bad impression on me that i give her too many gifts… because if im not wrong, at first u said that one of the handbag or bracelet is enough is it?
Also i wanna share a bit, and thank you helcat for always listening to me… im really really grateful for it
So i used to hate my city as its boring, and i have no purpose here and i have very little friends…. But since i met her, everything changed i love my city, i have a purpose here, i want to spend lots of time with her here, yes im planning to have holidays in other places with her, but regarding the place where im residing i want it to be here with her….February 13, 2023 at 4:42 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415375
As your partner said nothing is concrete. Plans are subject to change.
= i’d like to re-discuss this,
Yes it is still nothing concrete, but the possibility of it happening is quite big, and if i could do anything to prevent it i would…. But i cant, it’s all personally on her….
So on this issue, do u think there’s nothing i could do besides hoping that she wont go and keep staying in my city?
Actually her plans are after she graduated from her uni (as she’s attending uni in our city), she plans to study fashion design for 3 months in the capital and see how it goes, she told me her mom already given her the approval…. I have about a year till she graduate, so i can spend a year with her in this city…. But it’d like to prevent her from going to the capital…. She told me it’s not fixed yet, as it’s all in her decision….
I’m afraid that if she decided to study for 3 months in the capital, she gets more opportunity there and prefers there than our city, that way she wont go back…. And i really fear that so much……
Sometimes i woke up few times in my sleep when it’s not my alarm yet, i woke up fearing that she’ll go to the capital and get more opportunities there and doesnt come back… It’s very very painful, how i wish people understand this….
What’s ur opinion about regarding this re-discussion?
Do u think i should hurry up and be good at what im doing now (my job) so she’d stay? As if i’m good with my job she might feel sure to be with me and plans to stay?February 13, 2023 at 3:32 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415345
And about the social media, do u have any opinions on it?
As i still havent decide whether i should post it or not….
As well as how i should surprise her with the bracelet and handbag, do u have any opinions on it?February 12, 2023 at 10:53 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415339
As the event is tomorrow,
I really feel so uneasy today, that i feel like i need to have the best preparation so everything will be perfect and i wont make mistakes….
But im still confused on how to surprise her, and also regarding the decision to post on social media…..February 12, 2023 at 8:48 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415334
Yes im still uncertain whether to post the relationship on social media or not…. I need to be absolutely ready regarding all the judgements….
This issue does bring up some old thoughts, like what i’ve shared before that people tease my small house, and also i used to get mocked due to my family business which is an aquarium store as the shop is wet, and of course sometimes people make fun and underestimate me due to my appearance which is short….
And also i fear most boys (who followed my social media) might notice and look at her…. I dont want those boys to look at her and get attracted….. But i also want to post our relationship to show that she already has a boyfriend….
The date went well, but i did some mistakes… at night we watch stand up comedy show, but i didnt know the stand up comedy would have a lot of 18+ jokes…. I’m so afraid she might judge me, i blame myself why didnt i check more detail about it…. But luckily i think she’s quite ok with the show and doesnt judge or blame me…..
Also on that day i was so hasty, that i wanna quickly impress her…. I present her a valentine gift (not the handbag or bracelet) but a box filled with our pics and a letters that i wrote…. And her respond is very normal and not surprised or emotional….. and she laugh and told me that i give this too quick….. I really blame myself…. I was too worried that i might give her too much gifts on valentines day so i decided to give this one earlier, but turns out i was too quick…..
So on valentines day, which is tomorrow…. I plan to surprise her with the bracelet and handbag…. At first i plan to just give it to her along with the flowers when she get in the car… but i dont want her to have a normal reaction….. i also dont know what to write (as i plan to give a letter too for the gifts on valentines day) as all my ideas are written in the letter of that box (the box in which she has a normal reaction)…. She used to told me that she feels more emotional when there isnt a lot of people… so i cant surprise her in the hotel (the place where we are going to have our valentine dinner), then the surprise must be at my car…
I want to surprise her by asking her to close her eyes and put on the bracelet for her…. But im confused on how should i surprise her with the handbag… also with the flowers….February 11, 2023 at 9:29 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415239
The above thread was the continuation of the previous thread….February 11, 2023 at 9:28 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415238
I feel hurt seeing both of our pics, like i keep imagining if she leave me due to LDR like leaving our city, i’m going to look at that pic with full of sadness….. i may not be able to handle that trauma…
I’ll do everything to make her stay…. I’ll do my best to make her happy….February 11, 2023 at 5:39 pm in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415236
Day by day i keep feeling grateful that i met her, because she didnt judge me or my family…. I cant believe there is someone who dont judge me…..
Day by day i keep feeling worried of losing her, because i’ve always wanted a girl who doesnt judge me at all…. And i dont wanna lose her….
And few days ago i was so sure that im gonna post our relationship on social media on valentines day which is in 2 days….. But now i suddenly hesitate because im afraid of bad impressions…. And all this time when we dont expose our relationship, we are free from criticism or people who judge us…. But if i expose our relationship later on, it might open us to criticism and judging opinions from people…. But at the same time i also want to post our relationship so that other boys wont try to text or initiate a conversation with her, im so stressed right now…..
So yesterday i have a date with her, and we’re running out of dating spot in our city, and i feel so worried that she might feel bored of our city and decided to leave….
I’m planning to go on holidays with her on another city to have more spots, but im also afraid that she might feel the other city is better than our city and decided to leave…. I dont know what should i do, everything seems to create a mistake….February 9, 2023 at 6:28 am in reply to: Pls i beg, anyone help me with this every year issue of mine #415190
So what u are suggesting is that i shouldnt think too much on something that is not concrete?
But still although it’s not concrete, there is still possibilities for it to happen….
And yes, you may be right it doesnt prepare and prevent that future….. so what should i do then? I feel like i need to do something to prepare and prevent, because if i do nothing i could get worse….
Because i know, with my qualities i wont be able to hold her if she wanna leave for the capital… that’s why im trying to prevent her from thinking of leaving our city…. I never want to discuss about the capital with her so she wont remember or think about it…. Is helpful in ur opinion?
But if think about her leaving our city, there could lots of reasons that could cause her to leave…. And i dont think i can prevent it all…. I feel so worried because i’ve been looking for a girl like her for a long time, and i finally found her…. I wanna cherish and love her…. That’s why i dont wanna cause any mistakes that cause her to leave…. I dont know if this sound like the “addiction of anxiety” that u talked about above, i just speak what’s inside my mind…