Can anyone give some more advice regarding this issue?

I’d really appreciate it 😊

Dear TeaK,

I’ve consulted the dentist (my regular dentist) after cleansing my teeth… and i ask him if i can wear braces…. He told me that i can but he didnt recommend because he told me my teeth was okay and it’s only because of one tooth at the front row that goes backwards… he told me that the pain was not worth it for one tooth…After having some thoughts with myself, i decided to follow his advice…

And also after having a conversation with the dentist… i realize that i still struggle in keeping a conversation with someone…. When he ask me what do i do now, and i can only tell him that i’m helping my parents in the office.. and that’s it nothing more… I can only ask him questions but i cant be the “explainer”

It’s not only with this dentist, but with other people too…. Usually it’ll end up with me nodding my head and i dont know how to continue the convo…

Most of my conversations are usually with my closest friends and it’s mostly about jokes and my complains on life. And i guess it’s also due to how i mostly spend my time doing activities alone.

As a person who has more experience than me, how do u communicate well with other people? (This isnt me creating more problems or complaining, but im just curious on how i can improve this “part” of me)

• This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by Felix.
• This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by Felix.

Dear TeaK,

“Good, make sure you also ask him about your dilemmas and whether it will affect your eating, so you know what to expect.“

= Yep, this is what i had in my mind when i decided to go to the dentist. I’ll surely discuss about this matter.

“I also had full cheeks when I was your age, and was unhappy because of it. With aging, it tends to dry up, so now I wouldn’t mind some extra fat in my cheeks. Things change over time, and the way we look at them… What you now hate, you may love and miss some day… at least that’s how it was with me.“

= So when you’re unhappy with ur full cheeks you didn’t do anything about it and just accept it? As when i’m researching about chubby cheeks i saw most girls nowadays consult a beauty specialist to have their fat in their cheeks removed… and it really changed their jawline. Most of them are happy with the changes.

If i still sound repeating the same thing, u can just ignore my thread above. I’ll keep improving my self-esteem… and also thank you for all the advices u gave me… sometimes when i feel lost/confused i re-read it.

Dear TeaK,

Thank you once again for ur reply.

I’ve stopped thinking on that matter… thank you for hearing me out that time… It was really a dark period for me, and i wont discuss about that topic anymore.

Right now i’m trying to improve my facial looks… may i share about it?

As i feel i have several facial features due to genetics that makes me unattractive.

*continuation from the previous post*

As for the camouflaging my height, do u think sooner or late there’ll be moment i failed doing it? Because i’ve been trying to do it careful all these years but in the end still did some mistakes.

Dear TeaK,

I think today i just stop thinking about this particular situation, it’s due to last night i have difficulty sleeping and then suddenly i remembered how i use to be so confident back then (before my friend posted that goofy pic on my birthday 5 months ago).. i’m also insecure due to that “housing on development” post as i’m afraid people might misunderstood me, since that day i’ve stopped posting on social media…. I also labelled myself as having an unattractive face due to that insecurity

I tried to wait for the right moment so that at that moment i’ll post the best pic of mine….. but then i tried taking a pic of me (at home) on different angles… but i still look unattractive… At that moment i realized how i’m confident back then.. it’s because at that time i know that my face will always stay like that, so i just posted anything i want…. And i gained a lot of friends by doing that tbh 🙂…. Idk why right now i turned out like this due to insecurity…..

I think it’s also due to i’ve been trying to get my revenge to that “girl” who left me… i wanted to post the best pic of me after not posting for a long time so she’ll be shocked and she’ll regret leaving me….

But tbh i’m confused, should i really post only the best pic of me so that i can attract girls on social media…. Or should i stay with my old mindset 🙂 (just post anything regardless how my face look in any angles).

Because that’s the theory of social media right? We must post the perfect pic and there shouldnt be any flaws in that pic…

I just realized yesterday that i was blinded by insecurity, like i cant think straight… it’s insane… i’m very very afraid back then… Now i’m back to myself before i’m so frustrated due to that goofy pics and the housing development posts….. I can’t believe i think “that way” for this past 5 months 😩…

I’m so so delighted right now that i’m back to myself before that frustration…. I hope this isnt an unhealthy emotion transition im experiencing due to experiencing lots of struggling situations…. But right now i can say i gain my confidence on social media like i used to…

You said:

”And what if your friends would realize you are as tall as the girls, and not even slightly taller? Your usual anxiety would get triggered, because it makes you feel worthless and not good enough… so again, you’d need to deal with your core problem before you can really let go of obsessing about who thinks what about your height.”

= Can i really get ride of the core problem if i still wanna wear tall shoes/sandals? Or i can wear it, but i must accept if my friends find out how tall i am when im barefoot?

• This reply was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by Felix.

Dear TeaK,

Those who know me in person mostly knows my height (after boosted, as i always wear shoes) i never showed anyone my barefoot height… will they get reminded of this height when they try to remember my height?

As there are some people who have taken a picture with me (and i’m taller than her in that pic) what will she think when she saw my height in that “pic”, as i look short in that pic…. Will she still think that she’s shorter than me?

Really? Random people wont care? Like wont they comment in their head, “who is this short guy”?