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  • #338308

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    Yes im asking the same question to see if most people answer the same question then its likely to be that answer. Because i wanna know what’s other people perspective on how will she feel when meeting me later on for the first time?

    #338304

    Felix
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    Dear valora

    Yes i can relate to your advices as i realize i do a mistake by trying to get close to her by texting, in which there is a friend of me who can help me get to know her as he know im interested in her. I should have waited for him to help me get to know her, but i’m impatient and text her first and this is what happen. Do u think i still have a chance with her? (I’m not good looking so maybe this is also a cons when meeting her for the first time later on, even though that she has saw my face in my ig)

    Do u think she’ll be disgusted/turn off when we meet for the first time later on? Or do u think she’ll feel like nothing happen?

    #338300

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    Do u think she’ll be disgusted/turn off when we meet for the first time later on? Or do u think she’ll feel like nothing happen?

    When i meet her later on i’ll not chase her directly again as its a mistake, i’ll try to be friends with her first.

    But eventually if we wanna text each other later on, she’ll saw the old message that she didnt reply? Would it be awkward?

    Do u think if i wanna be with her i’ll have no choice but to meet up with her through my friend so that i have a chance? Do u think its worth it meeting her after she didnt reply my texts?

    #338226

    Felix
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    Dear peter

    Regarding the first girl, she knew how i look from instagram but havent met me in person. And i have texted her and she didnt reply. Maybe she reject me because i try to chase her and she havent even met me in real life. I regret chasing her before meeting her in real life first, because in real life meet up i still have a chance as one of my friend know her and maybe we could meet up

    If for example on of my friends meet me up with her friends, and i’ll eventually meet her, do u think i still have a chance to chase her? Or there isnt any chance anymore for me to be with her?

    #338224

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    Regarding the first girl, she knew how i look from instagram but havent met me in person. And i have texted her and she didnt reply. Maybe she reject me because i try to chase her and she havent even met me in real life. I regret chasing her before meeting her in real life first, because in real life meet up i still have a chance as one of my friend know her and maybe we could meet up

    If for example on of my friends meet me up with her friends, and i’ll eventually meet her, do u think i still have a chance to chase her? Or there isnt any chance anymore for me to be with her?

    • This reply was modified 6 days, 11 hours ago by  Felix.
    #337992

    Felix
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    Dear Anita

    Both girls have previously liked my pic (a pic of myself) on instagram. And i usually share insta stories pic of me and my friends. So they know how i look.

    • This reply was modified 1 week ago by  Felix.
    #335136

    Felix
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    Dear Inky

    Thank you for your reply. Your words have made me relax a bit regarding this situation, and i understand when you say people dont care about my parents siblings. What im really confused on is that will a girl concern about my parents siblings relationship if she is considering me as a partner. Because i bet most girls would want to have a comfy and warm family, especially when gathering among relatives. I also thought that in the future if my grandparents (my dad’s parents) is gone, there wont be any big gathering except me, my siblings and my parents only. Will a girl accept this? Or is what actually matters is only my parents and i dont need to worry about the other family members. I’m sorry if my request sounds weird haha.

    #335006

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    Thank you for your reply and understanding this thread along with the previous ones. You showed me a positive message and it makes sense to me and i’ll take that advice.

    As for my family members problem that i mentioned above, do u think a girl will accept that kind of situation? I’m asking this not because of i’m judging myself low, it’s just that i’m curious whether a girl might think twice in accepting someone if she finds it in this situation. I’d like ur opinion on this, thank you

     

     

    #333435

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    I have dress well since like a year ago, i believe im already very fashionable, but my fashionable clothes will always look short no matter. U can just imagine a 5’5

    And as for teeth, my canine teeth is far back on the left side. So basically when i laugh people will thought that one of my teeth is missing, like there is a gap between 2 teeth. I ever ask my parents for braces but they said that i dont have to, as it’s only a minor problem and unnecessary and they are also still afraid that it’ll affect my eating (you know my eating trauma), they are afraid i wont be able to chew. My parents is very sensitive towards my eating, they are afraid i wont be able to eat.

    As 5’5 i weight 64 kg, i guess its already ideal for me and nothing much i can do to improve this short structure. Very difficult right?

    #333425

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    Yes what i mean by lower tier is that most attractive (it doesnt have to be really beautiful, only above average) are most likely wont be attracted to me maybe because they see them as more qualified with a better looking person. And i ever tried to get close with one girl in the past (she’s not attractive among boys) and she’s open to me. Idk what i should do i want the attractive for me

    #333407

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    So what’s the advantage of a boy that has more money?

    And btw what if all the girls i chase rejected, i know you said that if i get rejected i should just think that im back as i am now (no difference). What if most girls that i chase later on see me, and when they look at me they immediately think that there are a lot of guys who is much better than me (because they saw me as a lower tier guy). Like they think “ahh this guy, why would i date this kind of guy, even the worse are better than him”.

    I believe i can attract girls that is considered as lower tier, but even though i never attract girls, im also picky on girls that i want a pretty girl but most of them dont want me? Does this mean that god give me a sign to choose an unattractive girl/lower tier. I didnt demand a girl who look like a model, just a girl who is my type (a cute innocent type).

    #332999

    Felix
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    Dear anita,

    Regarding what your parents told you regarding women, money and height, clearly the totality of what they told you didn’t serve you well, didn’t lead you to find a girlfriend. So I wouldn’t consider what they told you or tell you still regarding finding a girlfriend.
    =So how should i approach this matter in a better mindset so i can have a better perspective of it? As i always thought that due to money i can always find a girl eventually, even some of my friends also said like that.

    I hope to read from you soon, before or after you approach a woman (same height or shorter, doesn’t matter to me).
    =Well it doesn’t really matter if same height or shorter, but if i still lack confidence with the same height do u think i should just be confident even if there is a more higher chance of being rejected? But the same height girl is going to university abroad to another country (she’s my junior in highschool) and im graduating soon and come back to my hometown to work with my family, should i try within this circumstances?
    As for the shorter girl, i dont really know her but i have followed her ig and have replied her stories before, do u think she might feel weird that a stranger text her? She’s in the same uni as me

    #332897

    Felix
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    Dear anita,

    Right now im feeling better regarding my height, in the mean time i’m accepting my height now and starting to think realistically. I hope my mind wont stop thinking like this.

    As for the chewing and eating, i’ll try to do something to improve it

    As for the love relationship, right now as i’m starting to think realistically i make my mind to start try to be attracted to shorter girls than me, because before this i personally dont like the appearance of short girls as i like the appearance of girls at my height but due to my height i’m not confident with the same height. I used to think that their parents might immediately reject me when they see their daughter hanging with a short boy like me, this is wrong right? My parents always said to me that i shouldn’t be worrying about height, because as long as a man has money you wont have to worry, do u think its true? Because i think most girls that i knew have notice that i have a good financial, and i still cant get one (girlfriend)

    I’m happy as my mindset is getting better and better everyday, right now i’m thinking of trying to approach girls that i know as many as i can through instagram stories by replying their stories, do u think this is a good idea… well not immediately flirting but like try to get close to them as a friend. I really want to also try to reply the insta stories of a girl that is the same height as me, as right now im thinking of getting close to a few girls that i know and one of them is her with the same height. I always wanna approaching same height girls but i never have the confident.

    #332099

    Felix
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    Dear anita

    You said “It is amazing how much we suffer and for so long from things that didn’t have to happen. And yet, we can’t change what happened“, yeah i agree with you but i still cant think positively regarding this and keep blaming god for the injustice that happened.

    Regarding your advice for my eating habits, i’ll try to practice chewing myself and if it doesnt work i’ll try communicating with my parents regarding if i need a therapist.

    Regarding my height, there’s actually quite number of girls shorter than me, not much but there are few. Actually there’s one girl i use to interested in and she’s way shorter than me.. like 5 inch only. It’s just that i havent get to know her but i have followed her ig and she followed back. She’s in the same uni as me, but im graduating soon. I’m still also having insecurities in getting to know girls outside my friend’s circle, it’s just that i always though that i have to blend in into the girl’s friends circle, and im not good at communicating so im worried they might judge me. Regarding this girl, one of my friend’s know her due to both used to attend the same club (organization) in uni.

     

    #331851

    Felix
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    Dear Anita, i’m really sorry that u are forced fed to which results in difficulty breathing every morning. Both of us didnt intent this to happen but it did and i still believe that this unfair treatment of something which is not our mistake and lead to something negative like my height.

    And you said that “a gradual relearning of chewing with other than front teeth, and swallowing small pieces at a time with less water“ is a method that i can improve on, and my parents also told me that i should do that, but now whenever i try to chew with my back teeth i feel pain as i never use it and it always gets dirty for being unused which requires me to wash my teeth at dentist every 6 months and they even thought that my back teeth is dirty due to smoking which is not.

    And yeah i only can enjoy flavorful drinks completely, i still can enjoy foods tho its just that i need to flush it into the throat with water so basically i dont know how to enjoy food like normal humans do.

    I also get your point that your friend with a height of 5’3 still get married with someone. But over the few years i still cant find girls shorter than me that im interested in, the faces that i find attractive is mostly taller than me.

    Im really thankful that you understand my food trauma as i hardly tell anyone about this. This trauma causes me to not have many much appetite on eating, that’s why i dont have many nutrients in me. Most of my friends just know that i eat very slow, they even tell me that if i find a girl i need to find a girl which is also slow at eating to be able to catch my eating pace. They just dont know that i have this swallowing trauma and it really hurts, and also that word lead me into realizing that this causes my short height.

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