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  • #391577
    Rubina
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    We have recovered fully.Yeah i know about the treatment.I have schdeuled a therapy with a ocd survivor himslef.Lets see how it goes.You stay safe.

    #391569
    Rubina
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    Hey Anita,

    I am sorry i couldnt reply.Me and my family got covid last week.I totally forgot about this thread.I have gone through the website.I know what i have is Ocd/scrupulosity.As i told you before my brain tells me that this is not ocd this is something real like God guiding me on the right path and all that stuff.It takes me into guitlt trip.

    #391083
    Rubina
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    I even had  those thoughts like what if i get posessed by this goddess.It was very scary for me.I need to stop considering these thoughts as facts.But sometimes religious OCD feels so real.For the past few days i have been sitting with thoughts without judging them.Sometimes it works but other times i try to analyze them. Sometimes i feel like i dont know who i am and what my beliefs are.Thanks for you input anita.I really appreciate it.

    #391072
    Rubina
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    I wanna talk about my past a little deeper again.I hope you dont get confused.Thanks for validating my fear.Since childhood i was just told it was a silly thing.There are differents forms of this hindu goddess.People would dance as if they are posessed by this god.I used to get scared and used to avoid loooking at the processions.I used to get bad dreams and scary images in my mind.I started doing compulsion to supress fear/anxiety.I also got closer to God at this time.After that my fear kind of subsided for few years and i stopped praying.The anxiety came back again during my graduation  in a different for.I have stopped praying so God will punish with anxiety again.I felt like a very bad muslim that time.At that time i shared the fear with my sister who is a very religious muslim.I told her about my fears.She told me that inorder to ease the anxiety and to be good muslim i have to  pray and give up few things to please god.She also told me that god is guiding me on the right path and he is giving this oppurtunity to get closer to him.So i kept praying till my anxiety went away.My anxiety kind of went away.I thought god cured my anxiety and he is giving me this oppurtunity to get closer to him.Then i eventually  stopped watching movies ,takling to male friends,celebrating birthdays the list goes on .I learnt more about my religion after that through some videos on youtube.If you do these things you will go to hell and the devil will distract you from the right path .I thought thats how i am supposed to be inorder to avoid hell.Sometimes i felt like watching movies but feared god will send to me hell/give me anxiety if start being myself again.I was like this for few years.Then i got married.I dont know why that gave me confidence to be myself and the fear kind of went away.I started going to movies,celebrating birthdays and so on.After few years of being myself the fear has  started to pop up again(during covid).I am doing things which are against religion/God will put in me hell for disobeying him/Bad things will happen.But this time i dont want to change myself.I dont want yo pray out of fear as a compulsion.I want to accept myself the way i am and i want to have my own set of beliefs.Later on i learnt that this is a religious OCD.Its a more like a mental illness and not related to religion. I am trying to be myself but the things my sister told me in the past and the things i learnt about religion keep popping up.I get thoughts like this is  not religious ocd.Devil is misguiding you.Because at one time i gave up all these things to please God and now i have become selfish.Its takes me into spiral guilt and shame.Then i reassure myself that i am a good muslim.The mental rumination goes on.The things from past and how i used to be make feel so guilty.I had different themes of ocd that i was able to overcome.But this religious ocd isnt going away.Sometimes i feel like i shouldnt have learned about religion.I have this fear like i will go to hell or God will abandon me if i have my own set of beliefs.<!–/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_220110_141742_695.sdocx–>

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    #391000
    Rubina
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    At the end of year 2020 i started watching vidoes of how people overcame their ocd and also articles on tiny buddha.It has helped me a bit.Some days are good.The others days my brain goes into a panic state.Thinking about my past hurts a lot.Not able to move on from my past.

    • This reply was modified 2 weeks, 1 day ago by Rubina.
    #390999
    Rubina
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    I went to a pyschriatist for the first time in my life that was 2018.I started having intrusive thoughts when daughter was born.Then she put me on zoloft for 6 months.I didnt let her increase the dose because zoloft itself gave me anxiety.She also suggested me for group therapy.I went there for couple of weeks.

    In the same year i went to therapist for one on one session.She just told me to ignore my thoughts and go on medication.

    I dealt with those thoughts and guilt till 2019.Then slowly started to fade away.Then covid started in 2020 i was hit those thoughts again this time.I overcame the intrusive thoughts against my daughter.One of the articles from tiny buddha has helped at that time.Then another theme of ocd started that is religion.

    In 2020 i saw muslim therapist for my religious ocd.She just told me to follow the rules of religion that gave me more anxiety.Since then i have been dealing with same thoughts and guilt.After that i never tried therapy or medication.

    Recently i have shcheduled a session with an online therapist.It is on jan 31st.

    #390982
    Rubina
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    I am ok.Just stuck these OCD thoughts again.

    #390890
    Rubina
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    Hey anita,

    How are you ?

    #387400
    Rubina
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    Hey Anita,I am doing good as of now. Trying to set my own religious beliefs and learning to trust myself.Thanks for asking.How are you?

    #387399
    Rubina
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    Hey Anit,I am doing good as of now. Trying to set my own religious beliefs and learning to trust myself.Thanks for asking.How are you?

    #386094
    Rubina
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    Thank you for your kind words!!

    #386092
    Rubina
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    Thats what i tell myself God is above all these people.He is non judgemental and forgiving.Anyways thanks for  your time and  input anita.I alreally appreciate it.It was nice talking to someone who understands what i am going through.I am just trying to heal myself from this trauma so that i dont repeat the same with my kiddo.

    #386088
    Rubina
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    I tried zoloft when i was postpartum.Zoloft itself gave me anxiety.I started having thoughts like what if i get addicted to this medicine,what if i have side effects.But i did take it for an year.I was on 25mg that didnt help me much.I always seek assurance from my husband whenever i have a ocd attack.I feel better for few months then it hits me again.I feel anxious for one month then it kind of goes away.I started eating healthy and try to go for a daily walk for the sake of my mental health and i started feeling better.But now a days when i go for a walk.I get thoughts like” you are doing so much for mental health not doing anything for the God”.Sometimes that stops me for going on a walk.These obsessions  feel so real.When it comes to my kid i get the same thought you are doing so many sacrifices for your kid and you are doing nothing for god.These obessions come out in every action that i do.I spoke to a UK therapist who herself is a ocd survivor.I just had one session with her.She told me to set boundaries with religion.When i do i am scared if God will accept me?I am scared of conflicts in general if  i dont like something about people i try to avoid them.I always fear being judged and when they do i dont talk to them i simply avoid them instead of setting boundaries.The only person i can set boundaries are with my husband.I try i pray and fast during particular month of the year.I try to avoid so many things which are forbidden in our religion.Still i am not happy with myself.My mother used to always compare me with my cousin even if  iwas good at sudies.She once told me that you wont be able to achieve what your cousin did.Once i told my dad i was topper in the exams.He told me there might be poor students in the class thats the reason you became the topper.My father never respected me even my siblings.How do i heal with the childhood trauma and come out of trap of the perfectionism?

     

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    #386082
    Rubina
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    Thanks Anita.I appreciate for taking your time to read such a long post written by me.During my childhood i was surrounded by religious people.They would always tell us that you would go to hell if you dont pray,or listen to music and all other stuff.That didnt impact me during the childhood.It started impacting since graduation when i got closer to god.I was judged for wearing short clothes as child,for not covering my breast.These so called religious people would always judge about the way i dressed.My parents werent emotionally avaible to us.We indian people stay with parents even after my maariage.My mother had to deal with my grandmother who used to fight for every small thing.I used to get scared during weekends because it was a always chaos at home.My father is also short tempered person who used to blame/fight with my mother for every single thing.During our childhood we were very poor as my father couldnt get a proper job.He lost his eye to cancer.So mother and father had so many issues to deal with.I sometimes feel like my parents never taught us how deal with people judgements or how to stay strong during difficult times.We were always judged by relatives as we were poor that time.I have very low self esteem as a child.I have very few number of friends since childhood.My job was a disaster too because i wouldnt talk to anyone.I always felt like i am not good enough that carried till i got married.I used to pray to god to give me a good husband who shouldnt be like my dad.I got married 6 years back.It was an arranged marriage.I dont know why after marriage my confidence shot up.I started being myself.We moved to US after marriage.My husband never judged me the way i looked or dressed.I used to wear whatever i wanted even stopped praying.That didnt bother me much at that time.I really love the initial years of my marriage.There was no fear or anxiety for just being myself.I have an elder brother who became religious after i got married.He is used to judge me the way i am.He would always hit us(me and my twin sister) or say nasty words since childhood.I never said anything but tolerated his behavior all the time.But after pandemic i stopped talking to him.Because it really started affecting my mental health.I didnt want to be treated like that anymore.I dont know why  i dont feel confident like i felt during the intial years of my marriage.The feeling not good enough is back again after my daughter was born.I dont pray now and i still dress the way i want to.I dont do any of the compulsions now.Because i am trying change my beliefs.,but i am not able to do so.As i said there is always voice in my head that i am doing wrong.I am not able to move forward with that mental block.I want god in my life but i dont want to be driven by fear.My husband is a very confident person.He is a muslim too but he doest have this kind of fears.He always tells me to treat God like a friend and get bothered by others beliefs.I always wish i was like him.I am just trying to introspect what went wrong during my childhood that is stopping me for being myself.I also had counselling with a muslim therapist during pandemic.I told her what i was going through.She told me that i have to pray and God is guiding me.My anxiety spiked up after talking to her.I always feel like i dont want to do it compulsively.Now a days my mother has become religious.She tells me that i dont dress properly or i stopped praying like i used to before.I dont know even sometimes i feel the same thing why i have changed now.Why i dont do all those things like i did during my graduation like praying,dressing modestly.I dont want to raise my daughter by rubbing all these beliefs on her.So i am trying to change myself and beliefs.My mother,brother and sister they all are religious.When i think about them i always feel like a bad muslim.

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