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  • #409478
    zenith
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    Okay. Thanks for advise Anita. You  have a good day.

    #409475
    zenith
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    Anyways i did what you told me . So I texted C  and asked the reason for ignoring me.She told me that she felt bad when I said NO for the second time  as she made arrangements on that day. So she said she cant take a No for the third time so that’s the reason she didn’t invite me. I apologized to her for saying NO to her for the second time. She apologized to me for ignoring me .

    #409468
    zenith
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    My husband doesn’t give a damn about all these things. He doesn’t take things pesonally.I take all this shit to my heart and hurt myself.

    #409467
    zenith
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    I told A yesterday may be her telling to C that I wont attend the party if alcohol is present has caused the issue. She straight up lied to me saying that she didn’t tell C on that day but told her on a different occasion. Then she said as I don’t like alcohol may be that’s the reason she didn’t invite me. I don’t know why I feel like i don’t wan to sort this out. I just want to let go people. How to be self sufficient with myself ? As I told you I built walls around myself since childhood. I literally had zero friends in US before my daughter was born. I was content with myself and my husband.Now I have to mingle with other people  because I want to take her on play dates. But I am getting hurt because of peoples shit.How do I develop a thick skin?How do I stop relying my happiness on others? How do I heal my inner child ?How do I  enjoy my own company? I have been thinking about this same shit for the past few days 🙁 Do you think I should make friends with people for the sake of my daughter ?

    #409464
    zenith
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    GoodMorning Anita,

    I did talk to A yesterday regarding C not inviting me to the Halloween. A told me that she asked C few days back  why she didn’t invite me to Halloween. C has invited me to her house twice before. For the first time I already had a birthday party invite on the same day so I said no. For the second time I said YES and then after few hours my husband’s stomach was upset so I called her and told her sorry as I will not be able to attend. Then she invited A  and A told C that I wont attend a party where is alcohol is there .For me that wasn’t the reason I would have attended the party if my husband was well because I didn’t want to make her feel bad for the second time. I feel like may be C thought that I might have lied to her. A has been invited too both times. She rejected both times due to her personal reasons. So finally she told A that she will not able to take the rejection for the third time. What should do I now ?

    #409436
    zenith
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    Hope so.I appreciate your time Anita.You have a good day.

    #409432
    zenith
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    Okay. I will do that. I am at stage in life where I don’t want fake/forced friendships. I will communicate that to A.I don’t know how she is gonna react.

    #409429
    zenith
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    I did tell A about her friends ignoring me. She told me that’s how they are . She know the fact that one of her friend calls me when only needed. I did  tell her about the other friend ignoring me in the beginning. She told me to give her another chance. I got the same bad vibe from her but still i continued for the sake of A. Then after some time she bitched about me and A to other people. That’s when she stopped talking to her. And now i get the same vibe from C.I don’t want to continue this time. So i want to cut off with C right now.

    #409352
    zenith
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    I was feeling better until A’s friend C posted pictures online.That triggered me again.Whats is the need of calling me to the halloween party when there is no intention of inviting me.She invited A’s other friends.Why am i treated like shit by A’s friends.I feel like cutting ties off with my best friend that is A.This is the third friend of A who is treating me like shit.I want to stop making friends.

    #409332
    zenith
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    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Yeah thats right!!I am feeling bit better now.I cannot control how other people think.I am trying to let it go!!</p>

    #409317
    zenith
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    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Hey Anita.I used to be introverted and i used to feel ignored by people.I always used to think that since i am introverted so people talk less to me.I never felt bad about it.I always wanted to change that habit of mine.Since last year i started talking to people by being more friendly with them.I started inviting people to my home.I am doing my bit.I feel like my friend A takes more time than me to open up with people.My husband and her husband play badminton together with some other indians.My husband is more extroverted than A’s husband.But still people talk to A’s husband  and they get invited to thier homes.I asked the same thing to my husband he told me that may be we dont belong the same caste as them so we dont get invited. I seriously dont understand why people always think about caste even after coming this far(US).I used to always used to think that may be thats my problem.This time i dont feel like that.I am putting the efforts to talk to people.But still getting ignored.</p>

    #409304
    zenith
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    You think i should to A about this and tell her not to call me when her friends come over.

    #409302
    zenith
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    <p style=”text-align: left;”>I have no intention of going to party.Even we had planned a trip to Oregon.It was cancelled because little one down with fever.I dont know why i am so hurt.It reminds of me one thing you told me.May be i was ignored as a child.Thats the reason why i cant handle being ignored i guess.I have no intention of making new friends.I have noticed another thing about A’s friends.They talk to her becuase they all belong to the same cast.May be i dont belong to thier cast.I feel left out.I just hate this feeling.</p>

    #409300
    zenith
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    Thanks for the tip Anita.It seems to be working.I am trying to accept these as powerless thoughts.My brain is caught up with another issue.I have a best friend here in vegas.I already told you about her that we bought houses exactly opposite to each other.Lets call her A.I have noticed that A’s other friends dont give me a friendly vibe at.Even when i meet them they keep to talking to A and ignoring me.I already told you about one of A’s friendly already.She literally uses/talks to me only when A is not available.I faced similar vibe with another A’s friend.She used to literally ignore me when we met.Later on i got to know from other people that she was jealous of our friendship.She spread rumorus about me that took toll on me.She even deleted my number. I didnt say anything to her at all.She just deleted my number out of no where.I ignored her.Now comes a third friend.Now my best friend A  started talking to a new friend.Lets call her C.A invites me to her home whenever C comes over.I have noticed the same thing.I feel like she ignores me to certain extent.I feel like she is trying to get closer to A.When  i met C for the first time.She invited me to her halloween party.It was like two weeks back.Now C invited A through a message.I didnt get the invite at all.Now i dont know why.I feel so bad.What is point of telling me to come to her party when there is no intention of inviting me at all.I just cant stop thinking about this shit.I wanna let it go.I always try being friendly with A’s friends.But why do i get this vibe all the time.

    #408731
    zenith
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    Okay.I know nothing is going to happen because i am not at all interested in my boss.The only thing is he is attractive.As you said may i should i accept them as powerless thoughts.Thank you Anita.You have a good rest of your day.

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