Anita,

I am only aware of what she has shared with me, not her experience. Her actions are one source of first anger, and now sadness that I am feeling. I was at first angry that she expects me to be able to ‘fix’ our relationship and does not appear to consider her responsibilities in it. Now I am sad that there is a possibility that the pain may be prolonged and something that could be wonderful may not be, because I can only do what I can do.

Of course, there is also the possibility that she is aware of what her contributions, or lack of, will do to the relationship and is working on herself, and will work on the relationship when she is capable of doing so. That one is contrary to her actions and statements that I have observed, but may be true for her at some level. I deeply love her and want us both to be happy. I hope it is together, but if it can’t be, then I hope each of us finds our own happiness. I am sure going to try to find mine.