Dear David:’

The “something” your ex girlfriend may have is the very fact that she was intense at the beginning of the relationship with you and then she withdrew. That “something” about her may be just this, and nothing more.

Maybe one of your parents was emotionally distant. There were moment he or she expressed love for you but for too long periods of time, that parent was distance. Oh, how intensely did you crave that he/ she will love you again.

This is the same kind of craving, and there is nothing more intense than a child’s desire to earn back the parent’s love.

What do you think?

anita